Issues with BIB & Benedicte 19.01.15

After events of the past weeks 04.01.15 – and the #Emergency meeting tonight 19.01.15 I have no other alternatives rather than to address the issues with BIB team and #Benedicte in particular. Because I know from prior experiences that if I just sit back and let matters take their course one day I might live to regret not acting at my perils? When I visited BIB before starting on 23rd July 2014, I was told that I was to work in the Baby Room because the staff were already assigned and BR is the only place where there is a position.

I shared the information with the manager that because of my #conditions I am unable to work in the BR and Central Office should have this on record, as I had told them about this at the #interview. Since then my conditions have gotten worse and I have additional ones now which makes it even harder to manage. I however said I could carry on working in the BR until the matter was sorted out and I was willing to contact CO myself to deal with the matter if the manager wanted me to. The matter was sorted in no time and #Rumi went to the BR and me in preschool. #HildaMiller the area manager came and said it was she who said I should work in the BR, but was happy the matter was resolved.

Everyone made me feel #welcome and when I spoke to the manager about my situation she reassured me I am in BIB now so there was nothing to #worry about. I was the happiest I was ever being for the longest while and I made sure to let everyone know. But I guess I must have been too #naïve as usual and trust people too much because before long I realised all was not as they should be. Because I was new in the setting and did not have any key children so was more or less floating between the BR & Preschool I thought I would take the time to get to know the children. When Rumi was transferred to the BR, I took over her key group, but I was using the chance to capture evidence for all the children to put in their LJ because that is how I work.

I just don’t see a child as my key child, but consider myself to be responsible for providing the EYFS for all of them to reach their individual potential. So I was in the process of #collating evidence especially for the children for whom I had concerns and getting to know them. I recalled once #Sao came to ask me about the observations I was writing and said I should put them in the #child_Bez’s LJ. I said I had done them rough and the key person could write them up. She claimed that I was to transfer them on the observation forms because I had done it, so I was responsible for writing on the forms. I said I would only do so if I was given time out and she came back to give me the time to do it but not before arguing with me.

But I was surprised when #LynneKelly comes to talk to me and said she was told I refused to do observations and Ofsted would be coming any time soon and they would need to see them. I reassured LK that she could rely on me to get whatever work done as I always stick to my words. On another occasion I made some rough copy of observations and said to Sao that the key person could write them up, but #Remi claimed that she did not have any time to waste to write up anybody’s observation they should do it themselves. I noticed however that when Sao wrote an observation for #Child_Mthulisi, she wrote it rough and gave it to me to copy on the observation form. I just got on with it and did not make a song & dance about it as she and Remi had done. By then I realised it is one rule for me and another rule for others, so since I was the #newcomer I refused to upset the applecart.

Although I tried to capture children in group activities and documented observations, some either don’t take account of them or just leave them where I handed them over. So of late I focus on documenting the information for my key children and get on with the job as I would like to start up making #HomemadeBooks for BIB. But time does not allow as I have to be dealing with one thing or another like making sure I #record what have been happening since the beginning of January 2015. I only have 1 observation in #Child_Elizabeth’s LJ from Remi, however since #Rujina came she gave me 1 for #Child_K’mari. All I done is asked Rujina to write her name on the piece of paper and pasted it on the observation form. Remi said she was given the job of implementing LEYF Nurseriesethos at BIB, but the others were not supportive and reported her to LK. I noticed the #conflicts Remi spoke about especially during Room Meetings when the others told Remi the nursery is not LEYF, but BIB and no one was going to bring anything from outside there.

They did not care where we come from and I just viewed those arguments as the BIB team refusing to move with the time and accepting some of the changes that were expected. I hear Sao using the exact same terms when I explained about taking the #CEO_MultigenerationalWorkingApproach from Luton Street into BIB. Since Benedicte raised the Multigenerational – Silver Sunday that I promoted celebrating #Theresa as a volunteer at BIB as her #1stgrievance with me. Because she claimed when she asked me… and she cannot even mention the name – Multigenerational or Silver Sunday – LK have to supply the answer. I told her to go and do her research and she feels that I was rude in saying that to her?

The crux of the matter is I find that people interprets things the way they want to suit their arguments. Because I explained to Benedicte that Silver Sunday was celebrating the elderly folks and this is part of Multigenerational. The CEO is #passionate about it and it would be good on her CV if she knows about Multigenerational Working, so it is best for her to do her research. I never for the life of me knew I had #offended anyone by telling them to do their research. Because for me research is carried out as part of the job anyway. After listening to what both Benedicte and #Flavia had to say tonight about me telling someone to do research, I am #flabbergastedand is left to assume that was where I went wrong. Because of me telling Benedicte to do her research about Multigenerational working I am assuming she is carrying a grudge as Carol was the 1 who asked this question in the meeting?

I kept wondering why she kept saying “I AM SCARED OF YOU” after I started, but today things are beginning to become much clearer. I noticed that tonight she was so #traumatised that she is literally shaking and could not get her words out. Then she is saying things that even if “I Don’t Come To Work Tomorrow…?” I just can’t imagine what I have done to Benedicte to be getting this sort of reactions from her in a room full of colleagues. So I will now have to make sure I am #neveralone with her as I don’t want her to make any more ALLEGATIONS against me? I can remember clearly when I made the Book of Cards with the children and decided to extend it to include all the grandparents and #Child_Zachary wanted to make the card.

Benedicte asked what that was about and when I told her she said “ME AND ZACHARY DON’T CELEBRATE NOTHING”. At the time I thought it was very strange of her but it never dawned on me why as per usual I always take people at face value. I never got any support doing the celebrating and singing for Theresa until after I had finished and called LK to come and join in the photos. Bendicte made up her mind to judge me from I started as she kept saying she is #scared of me and during 1 of the RM said she felt we were not giving her the respect she deserved because she is the #youngest and she felt she is the only one who should be talking.

All I said at the time was for her to get on with the meeting because I never enquired of anyone’s age when I started. And although she is RL everyone have the right to talk about matters to do with our work as we were not there only to be #dictated to. I only became aware of Benedict’s reason for saying why she don’t celebrate anything when Sao told me when I started the #BlackHistoryMonth celebrations and the children were making flags and shape persons to reflect their diverse multicultural identity. Because in the RM Benedicte said we should ask the parent’s permission before we do activities with the children and since I was only doing activities to support, enhance and extend the children’s development and learning across the EYFS. I could not see the reasons for getting #permissions.

Things only became clear when we started the #Christmas activities and Benedict could not stop herself from showing her disapprovals. But because I have worked with colleagues who are Jehovah’s Witness and this is the 1st time I am coming across such reactions. I had the impressions that we are not allowed to make our #religion and #politics part of our work, but I could be wrong? Anyway because I am into celebrating all kinds of festival as part of my Job Description in promoting equal opportunity I never for a moment thought celebrating Christmas should be an issue and just got on with the job. The day after #Stella visited I was doing the shape people activity with the children when Benedicte come to ask why I was doing that activity.

Since I had been doing this activity over a period of time, differentiating it for the age groups. I asked Benedicte if it is the 1st time she saw me doing the activity and she said no but she wants to know what it is about because she is the #RoomLeader. I asked her if this meant I have to justify my work to her before doing them and I have done studies and trainings to give me the knowledge to provide a balanced curriculum. She said because YOU HAVE A DEGREE IT DON’T MATTER. When I began to justify my arguments about her saying my Foundation Degree; The Open University didn’t matter she said that is why I don’t talk to you because I am SCARED.

I took her by the shoulders sat her down on a chair and said “I AM A TACTILE PERSON SO I HOPE YOU DON’T MIND ME TOUCHING YOU?” I SAID PLEASE DON’T BE SCARED OF ME, I AM HERE TO HELP YOU AND YOU ARE DOING A WONDERFUL JOB! After I’d finished speaking to her I got Flavia’s attention and asked her to tell Benedict what she told me to do with the shape persons, but I realised Flavia is reluctant to speak to Benedicte. So I explained Flavia told me I could use the shape persons as display in the Maths Area. I tried to fit in as best as I could and thought I was doing a good job implementing and promoting LEYF ways of working at BIB whilst recognising the fact that I am new to the setting so I have to #respect the way how the BIB team do their job.

I had already brought copy of the #ECAT form and given it to LK and she and #Mewe promised to look for it on the computer. As far as I am concerned I had done my job and the rest was up to LK. LK later told me that Hilda had brought the ECAT forms over. When Stella visited LK told me that she was organising ECAT trainings with Stella for all the staff. I introduced the Activity Planning providing a copy for all to see when I done the 1st Focus Activity and started my folder to document evidence of how we support, enhance and extend children’s learning in the areas of the EYFS. #OFSTED had picked up on the fact that the 3-5 years old teaching were lacking in the Specific areas. During one of the RM, Benedicte was talking about some matter that came up at her trainings with #GarySimpson & #GillSpringer at CO re speaking to parents about their children for whom there are concerns.

She mentioned #Tayandre’ and #Abdul and asked what the key persons were doing. I told Benedicte I had spoken to LK the #SENCO and Tayandre’s mum about my concerns and what I was planning to do. Some mention was made about the ECAT form as it is on 1 of the observation forms that is used and Benedicte asks “WHAT IS THAT?” I explained what the form was and told of the fact that LK said Hilda had taken the forms in and went to my locker to get a copy to show the team.
I realised Benedicte had a different approach to her work from mine, but I was not there to question her practice only to do my job and try to #inspire and motivate the team to work toward LEYF standards that I am accustomed to.

So whenever she give instructions like duties for the day I complied and even go a little further helping out where I can as part of the team. During the Christmas seasons when it was her time to do the #CircleTime she did not practice with the children, but since I mostly focused on the younger children I just got on with the job. One day she asked if I think I was #confident enough to practice with the children because Flavia was on break. It was obvious from the question that Benedicte was not trying to get to know the person who is Mervelee Myers, but had already made up her mind about me so she was just sticking to her #jaundiced view of being SCARED of me, for what reasons only she knows. This came to a head on the day of the Christmas Play when the children were getting ready and we were practising. During a lull in the practise she asked what was happening and she was going to sing Wriggly Fish.

I told her we should carry on practising the Christmas Songs as we should not be changing at this late stage now it is almost time for the play. She said you know I don’t sing Christmas Carols and I said you don’t have to, and she flounced off. I just cannot understand why Benedicte got so worked up about the Christmas celebrations because I did not noticed ZACHERY’s mum acting in any way different over any of the things she objected to. Zac asked to make the Silver Sunday card to take home when I said it was for #grandparents. Mum came in and pointed out the #Trinidad flag on the Display Board and talked about it with him. She asked if she could take the Snow person’s cup Zac made that Sao displayed on the window sill home.

Benedicte was the one making a big fuss over the whole matter. I realised everyone is afraid to talk about her practice in front of her face, but I have heard whispers that I am not going to repeat about her. I have always being told from I was little that hearsay cannot go to law and if I say someone say something and they say they did not. It is my word against theirs and that is not what I am about. But I have to make sure I put in writing that lots of things were said before I got to the wedding about work and Benedicte said lots of things about me primarily that I was not happy. And since that was the 1st thing LK said to me on the Monday when she called me to the office I am going to say now that Benedicte is the one who has made up those stories about me saying I am not happy with management along with the other things I was alleged to have said about other staff at CO.

I have absolutely no dealings with some of those staff so I don’t know what I could have to say about them. Everyone who reads the CEO letter would know I am writing about THERESA after I have done my #Research. I have been working with LEYF for 5+ years now so I am sorry in case I offend anyone that I do most things the LEYF way and all I was doing is trying to help BIB to work within LEYF ethos, but after what Sao said tonight I will refrain from upsetting anyone. However as a #Knowledgeable practitioner I think it is only right that I be allowed to do the job role that is in my Job Description without barriers, constraints and limitations placed in my way.

Since I come to BIB I have introduced practice that was not been implement before. Everyone knows that I have been making Homemade Books as part of my practice to show how we carry out certain of the EYFS curriculum and the CEO knows about this. Hence the reasons she endorses the Write up I am doing on Theresa Salmon. #Julie my former manager at Luton Street was the one who told the CEO about my projects of writing Homemade Books on one of her visits when we had the media visiting. The CEO applauded my efforts and took one of those books to work on to be used as a learning tool for LEYF. So she knows about my passion and I read her #blogs and follow her on Social Media.

At the recent staff meeting I felt picked on and most of what were said were done to #belittle and undermine the work I have done over the 5+ years I worked with LEYF and what I since brought to the BIB setting. Only at the time I did not know the reasons for the reactions I was getting. On the Thursday after the SM I saw Benedicte & LK in the office when I was leaving and little did I know what was in motion. The next day I got in and even thou I heard LK had gone to CO for an Emergency meeting, it never dawned on me it was about me until after LK came back & we were supposed to have a meeting, but she said she was advised not to discuss the matter. However during the supervision LK was so #distraught about the matter I couldn’t help but apologised if I had caused her any distress.

Even then it never dawned on me that Benedicte was the one making ALLEGATIONS about me and this story started from we attended Rumi’s wedding. This only became clear on the Monday when we had the meeting between LK & I & Remi as the facilitator. I was gobsmacked by some of these allegations and then there were those matters of things that happened in the nursery. I was accused of not doing anything much and all I do is #writing. I have explained that in order to do the excellent work especially on the Lj, I have to make my jottings as a #memory jogger, so when I am ready to write up I have the information to hand. As for Joyti, I realised that she is taking out her incompetency on me and trying to use me for a #scapegoat.

She goes out of her way to provoke me to get a reaction out of me and has linked head with Benedicte to wind me up. Because how else can I explain that me asking someone if they had finished speaking to me to be RUDE? Then Joyti keeps coming to the door to #peep on me in the preschool only to ask me if I was on my own and when I said I am here with 2 children she saw that as not giving the correct answer to her question. Of course before I was aware of this fact everyone was going to LK complaining about me, but when I went to report her saying I am disturbing her, she can’t understand why.

Joyti realised I know what she is up to because since I spoke to LK she changed her tune towards me. Then on Friday when I spoke to her about the child settling in and she #presumed….? I told her to ask to go and shadow in another nursery where she don’t have the responsibility of being on the floor She begins to apportion #blame saying she did not get an INDUCTION. As far as I am concerned she has been in the setting long enough to pick up tips about how to perform her roles and responsibility by now. She spends her entire days writing in her book and standing round doing absolutely nothing. Then when I am showing her evidence of the children engaging and learning from the enabling environment provided from the planning, she took the planning form down to asks Flavia what the initials I wrote meant. I rest my case that nothing we told her from she came to the setting has sunk in and I don’t know when anything will? She realised I know exactly where she is at so that is why she is disgruntled with me.

I could do what she is supposed to be doing with my eyes closed. And then she has the nerves of hiding behind her status of being Deputy Manager and at the same time abusing her position, but Benedicte is also doing the same and sees a shadow behind every corner waiting to take away her post. They can rest assured because l am not interested in anyone’s position. Since I have learnt or deduced that Benedicte is responsible for those ALLEGATIONS that were made against me and I am adamant that I never said those things I would like it put on record that she must have some axe to grind or have motives for doing what she is doing to me. The only conclusions I can come to after tonight’s meeting is that she felt I have offended her for telling her to go do her research about Multigenerational and I made sure the children celebrated the Christmas Play and because she don’t celebrate anything because she is Jehovah’s Witness then I have done something terrible to her?

She is holding a GRUDGE and she thinks by going to LK with those ALLEGATIONS she could get rid of me. Pity she don’t know I have been through even more than this and I am still fighting on. However I am not just going to sit back and allow her to gang up on me with the rest of BIB team and treat me like an outsider whilst at the same time DESCRIMINATING against me by Harassing & Bullying me. Hiding behind some #perceived offence of which I did not knowingly did any such thing – telling her to do her RESEARCH about Multigenerational?

LK said she did not read the letter I gave to her today in place of the meeting we were supposed to have on Friday with Joyti. Instead she puts it in my file, but how is she able to understand things from my point of view. I hope LK will take the time to read my concerns about all the persons involved in making these ALLEGATIONS about me and reading between the lines. Because if she is not careful some of these same people will be causing trouble for her as they want to take over her job. I have written a full account about the 2 weeks and I intended to give to LK, but I have thought better of it and will be using same as my #DefensivePractice because I don’t want to lose tracks of how the events unfolded. One day who knows, LK might need it when they show their hands and come out in the open with their plans?

Deputy Nicola O’Halloran

I will never forget what #Nicola did to me and this is one of the reasons why I am very weary now of the people who are around and me and endeavour never to let my defensive mask slip again. Nicola abused her power of her authority breaching my Basic United Nations Human Rights when I was feeling #vulnerable because of my health conditions. She tried to stich me up making false allegations about my professional conduct and the way I do my work. Although I moved on from the incident I believed she came to BIB and tried to cause trouble stirring up conflicts amongst the team and pretending she had the interest of BIB at heart.

But all she was interested in was making a name for herself as she tried to curry favour and climb up the career ladder. I can attest to this fact after she visited Henry Fawcett and called back to say how the place was dirty and nothing was going on there. I was left to wonder what had she gone back to report about BIB. As she came in with her superior airs after OFSTED visited saying nothing was happening. Strangely enough, Joyti came and is saying the same kind of things even though it is evident she haven’t got the faintest clue about practice.

Updates:

Matters have escalated to the point now where I don’t know what else to do to please everyone concerned. I have even decided to give up my rights just so I can survive, but to no avail.

Updates 2/7/2018

All anyone needs to do is read the reviews on www.leyf.org.uk website. Then compare with https://www.gov.uk/employment-tribunal-decisions/ms-m-myers-v-london-early-years-foundation-2300047-2016.

Prepared by: Mervelee Myers FD Open.

Addressing Issues With Jyoti

WB: 05th January 2015 – 15th January 2015.
I extended the arm of professional friendship to #Joyti when she started at the setting telling her I worked with LEYF Nurseries for 5+ years so knows more than most about LEYF work ethos and she was welcome to ask for any help. After #Remi handed over the #LearningJourney, she went through the LJ with me and I explained the way how I do my work. I addressed each question and even said to her there are certain things I do not agreed with as the LJ was not being treated as a whole document, but instead all focus was on the observations. She said she spoke to #LynneKelly about what I said and LK told her someone was coming to address the matter and she would tell her what to tell me.

Joyti admitted to me after her handover with Remi that she was #confused and did not know what to do. I offered my support and told her about the contributions I made via trainings with LEYF #TrackingChildrensProgress 0-5 that each LEYF staff were given a copy. I told her I would try and bring in my copy so she could have a look, but I forgot it. I went into the office to ask #Lauren to send of the work I’d done in #Child_K‘s LJ for #HildaMiller and saw the BIB copy on the filing cabinet and told her about it. Joyti said she read through it and everything was clear and she understand what was to be done now.

I introduced Joyti to the #ECAT Every Child A Talker forms and gave her copy and told her LK is arranging trainings with Early Years Consultant #StellaLouis so I will wait for the training so everyone can benefit. However I have had training and knows what to do, but I have to wait on LK. She looked at #Child_TA’s LJ and saw the Individual Education Plan #IEPand ask to take it to copy and I told her she can copy and take, but I would not allow her to take the original out. She showed to #SaoBanya and Sao took copy. She spoke to me about the fact that she would #anonymise it and use it as a learning tool for the children for whom she has concerns. I told Sao I did not mind supporting her if she needed my help.

Joyti also showed the IEP to #FlaviaFoddai and I told Flavia I’d help her if she needed me to. I told both Sao and Flavia I was the #SENCO at Luton Street so had done trainings about aspects of Special Educational Needs and was responsible for doing lots of documenting information and working with other professionals. I brought in other training materials and shared with the team and Joyti took her own copies.
Although I explained things to Joyti she keeps coming back to me asking the same questions over and over and when I say such and such is not in my remit she said she is asking me because I should know.

At this point I was getting the impressions that she thought I was responsible for training her? So thinking I could be of more help to her I handed over Child K’s and Child T A’s LJs explaining that Hilda Miller the area manager was using Child K’s as one of her project and Child T A’s was different in that I was documenting evidence because of mine and the parent’s concerns. I showed Joyti my #ActivityPlanningFolder that I organised and told her I had added the #Evaluation part to it when I went to Luton Street Community Nursery and OfstedOFSTED recommended it on their visit.

When #KarenWalker who wrote the Tracking Children’s Progress 0-5 booklet, she had asked permission to borrow and used some of the planning forms. I explained about the weekly planning and how the focus activity feed into the weekly planning. Each staff is responsible for doing 2 activities per week for the 2-3 & 3-5 age groups. From the focus activity evidence are documented for the LJ. Joyti would question why I do things a certain way and I explained that being with LEYF 5+ years meant everything I do is centred around LEYF ethos and ways of doing things. Before we went off, for holidays, I heard Joyti questioning why some children behave certain ways…. I tried to explain the reasons behind the behaviours as I know it would take a little time before she would get to know about each #individual child.

I believe I am a very #tolerant person and I am prepared to go the extra mile to facilitate anyone especially if they are new to the situation like Joyti. But after coming back from holidays I got the impressions from how Joyti was approaching her work that she is not using her #initiatives enough to get to grips with her work. Instead she was relying too much on her colleagues to be spoon feeding her and using her status in the setting as #DeputyManager to blag her way through? I found that she kept asking me the same questions about things I had gone through with her several times and which she said she understands. But somehow she just could not seem to get it no matter who explained it to her.

The way she does things can be very #disruptive to the routines and leave the children #unsettled and I in particular #stressed out. I felt I had to be giving her needs for information to do her job priority over meeting the needs of the children. As she would chose the time when you are trying to engage with the children to go over things that were already explained to her. I get the impression that she thinks she has priority to getting her questions answered over the needs of the children. I think by now she should have taken her time to familiarised herself with her #JobDescription and be more proactive in finding her way around by now. Maybe cutting back quality for quantity is the cause as I did not notice the Induction Programme been used any more?

For example she is setting up the table and she keeps walking into the room back and forth with 1 mat at a time asking who this is, is he/she here? All she has to do is get the register and look to see if the child is signed in or out and set a place. These things are happening when I am trying to engage with the children or doing circle time, settling the children who need support. One day she commented loudly why is this child so miserable today? The child in question is Child TA and I have to say Joyti this is the child I have been sharing information with about my concerns. I am sat at the table engaging with children and Joyti went and takes the LJ, sits at the table and is going through every scrap of information that we went through before and even that which she took copy.

Then she has all these questions… What did his parents say? Showed her where parents commented on the #6WeeklyReview. It says here he has #French and #Africanlanguage does he speak any of them? Now there is a time and place for everything and since we had gone through the LJ before I thought Joyti should at least be making a profile of the child by then? What really irritated me was the way Joyti kept going through each forms and asking if I had made them up. No I am working with what I have got until I am given the correct ones. Then she is pointing out what are outdated… I was annoyed that Joyti got up and left the LJ on the table and did not remember to get it and put it away securely.

I worked too hard on Child TA’s LJ for anything to go missing because I don’t keep copies on my USB. I do the work and delete to make space. I think Joyti has let the status of Deputy Manager get to her head and have lost her focus on how to accomplish her job. Just going around saying I am this or that status don’t get the job done. Joyti is not the only one either who has let their position go to their head and I am afraid they can rest assured I have no #ambitions to be anything than I am so I am not a #threat to anyone’s job? Joyti took to coming to seek me out when I am doing circle time and kind of reminded me of those #Inspectors when I went to #PrimarySchool.

She never contributed anything and just questioning and observing my practice. Then one morning I am doing circle time and she comes in, so since I had been working with #Rujina to get Child TA’s, #Child_Ify and some of the children settling in from baby room – #Child_Adama to join in. I asked Joyti if she would like to take control of the group so I could focus on #keychild_TA. She said she would work with Child TA. But instead all she ended up doing was keep asking questions about him – why is he not sitting, etc, etc…? So instead of giving my priority to the children Joyti expected me to answer her questions. In my #frustrations I said Joyti this is TA whom I have been sharing information with you about. Even then I doubt very much if Joyti got it?

I just don’t think it was by #coincidence that Joyti comes to seek me out when I am doing circle time and is always acting out of sorts whether it was deliberate or she knows it or not. So in the pm when I had to do circle time and had #Child_Jayden clinging unto me, I asked #Sadie to come in with me as I just could not cope with Joyti anymore. Joyti did come in with Adama but left when Adama did not want to stay. Sadie who was I am assuming given her role to carry out on Tuesday when I saw 4 members of staff in the office mouth in mouth had done her job. But #exaggerated a bit to make it spicier, I supposed about what I said?

My defence in the matter is I was trying my best not to behave unprofessionally to Joyti because I realised I was STRESSED and at the end of my #tether? So I was doing my level best to keep her away from me as by this time she was getting on my #Nerves. Yes anyone is welcome to check my file to know why I know when I am liable to behave a certain way if I am #undulyprovoked? Some of my health conditions caused me to have other #underlyinghealthissues that I have to try and control.
Monday 5th Joyti told me about staff meeting and by Thursday her behaviour towards me was just #intolerable as she just kept doing these things that was getting on my nerves because by now she was #assessing my practice. Then she keeps asking the same questions and did not seem to be getting it. She & #DeputyNicola copied some of my work to take to their Deputy #Trainings and yet I was hearing things said about me not doing anything. I got the impressions she came back from her Deputy Training to exert her authority wearing her Deputy Manager’s status, but she chose the wrong person to be her target if that was the case. Each time she presented anything I told her that I will do whatever is expected of me when they are #implemented by authority.

Thursday whilst on my break and working on the computer she comes to show me the #2YearOldProgressCheck saying LK ask her to show to me. I told her LK had already spoken to me about it earlier and showed me the format and I asked if LK could get it on my #USB. She still keeps prattling on so I simply asked if she was finish with what she was saying. She later come to ask #Benedicte a question but was unable to formulate it properly, so left to get the book. I said to Benedicte after she left to go find the book that she is talking about the EYFS and she walks in with LK copy. It was funny that Joyti could not formulate a question about the EYFS…?

Later she came out to show me folder that Nicola had given her with planning and advising me what to do with it as Nicola had told her to tell me. I took her again to the Weekly Planning and explained to her how the planning is done again and linking the Focus activity. I said I know that the resource file is a good tool to fall back on, but I would continue using the planning until I was told otherwise. She is telling me that I should just #handwrite the activity plans and put in the file Nicola gives her as I don’t have to use computer because she don’t. I told her LK already knows why I do most of my work on the computer.

Monday I noticed Joyti was behaving towards me as if she is my #superior and I was there to answer the questions she asked even though I had gone through them with her before. I have to be justifying my practice to her even though I realised there are lots for her to learn. However after what happened the previous week I tried to control my irritations and not to let my #frustrations show. Tuesday of this week I am doing circle time with the younger children as I prefer to work with them to establish the foundation before they turn 3. Joyti comes to the door and tells me I should be quiet with the children because she is trying to read and I AM DISTURBING HER! Now these are the -3 who are the focus to develop skills in the #Prime areas and they are not talking, singing or doing nothing to develop any of those skills.

Since I spoke to LK on Tuesday I realised Joyti has climbed down off her high horse and is treating me differently. That is why today I offered the hand of friendship and told her if she feels I have #offended her in anyway, speak to me about it. I advised her to ask for some time away from the setting to #shadow a more experienced Deputy when she told me she did not have an #induction. This is after I spoke to her about the child who is settling in and she said she assumed…? I told her certain things are covered during settling in and she must not ever take anything for granted.

This is my way of covering my back and I do not intend anything I write here to be used against Joyti as I can appreciate how difficult it can be starting out in a new job. I am still willing to help Joyti and anyone else who need my help in getting the job done, because UNITED WE STAND, DIVIDED WE FALL. I am only interested in giving of my best and working collaboratively in the team.

#Allegations:

Allegations: Setting the Record Straight – Since there were a number of allegations coming back and forth from WB: Monday 5th January 2015 culminating in a meeting between Lynne Kelly, Remi as the witness and I. Out of that meeting I am hearing about a number of ALLEGATIONS that were made against me. Since some are from the #wedding and others from within the setting most of which were alleged to have taken place on Thursday 08th January 2015 I have now been made aware that some are #orchestrated by Joyti. Joyti in particular is the author of a number of the allegations that are made in the setting and I don’t know why she is behaving this way towards me.

To protect myself I have decided to stop running from my past and stand up and fight for my rights. However there are certain matters that I need to be cleared up as I am not going to sit idly by and let any other person ruined my life, blacken my name and good character and bring down my high integrity that I worked so hard to achieve. Most of all I won’t allow anyone to rob me of my basic Human Rights not to be Harassed and Bullied as I go through the processes of living my life in a productive manner.

However I must let it be known that the past 2 weeks have impacted on my health, emotional well-being and #exacerbated my underlying health conditions. I have gone through the Menopause and haven’t had a period over a year. Now I am STRESSED out and bleeding and this is all due to the actions of some UNSCRUPULUS Colleagues who have conspired to make ALLEGATIONS against me. I am hurting and trying to cope with this #deceit because all I have done since joining Bird In Bush is to give of my best! It will be very hard for me to go back to that time when I #trust anyone because my life was almost RUINED once by unfounded ALLEGATIONS made against me before.

Update:

At the New Year Staff Party: I was talking to #TaniaSilva my former colleague at Luton Street about telling Joyti to ask to shadow another Deputy Manager. When I told her I worked with Tania, she said she met her at deputy meeting. Tania told me that Jyoti came to shadow her and she was asking for help with the #HomeLearning_Language groups etc. Tania said she told Jyoti to ask #Mervelee to help her because I know what to do. Yet no mention is made of this when they are trying to frustrate me and #disempowering so I can’t do my work.