BIB LEYF Became My Lion’s Den

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Addressing Issues With Jyoti

WB: 05th January 2015 – 15th January 2015.
I extended the arm of professional friendship to #Joyti when she started at the setting telling her I worked with LEYF Nurseries for 5+ years so knows more than most about LEYF work ethos and she was welcome to ask for any help. After #Remi handed over the #LearningJourney, she went through the LJ with me and I explained the way how I do my work. I addressed each question and even said to her there are certain things I do not agreed with as the LJ was not being treated as a whole document, but instead all focus was on the observations. She said she spoke to #LynneKelly about what I said and LK told her someone was coming to address the matter and she would tell her what to tell me.

Joyti admitted to me after her handover with Remi that she was #confused and did not know what to do. I offered my support and told her about the contributions I made via trainings with LEYF #TrackingChildrensProgress 0-5 that each LEYF staff were given a copy. I told her I would try and bring in my copy so she could have a look, but I forgot it. I went into the office to ask #Lauren to send of the work I’d done in #Child_K‘s LJ for #HildaMiller and saw the BIB copy on the filing cabinet and told her about it. Joyti said she read through it and everything was clear and she understand what was to be done now.

I introduced Joyti to the #ECAT Every Child A Talker forms and gave her copy and told her LK is arranging trainings with Early Years Consultant #StellaLouis so I will wait for the training so everyone can benefit. However I have had training and knows what to do, but I have to wait on LK. She looked at #Child_TA’s LJ and saw the Individual Education Plan #IEPand ask to take it to copy and I told her she can copy and take, but I would not allow her to take the original out. She showed to #SaoBanya and Sao took copy. She spoke to me about the fact that she would #anonymise it and use it as a learning tool for the children for whom she has concerns. I told Sao I did not mind supporting her if she needed my help.

Joyti also showed the IEP to #FlaviaFoddai and I told Flavia I’d help her if she needed me to. I told both Sao and Flavia I was the #SENCO at Luton Street so had done trainings about aspects of Special Educational Needs and was responsible for doing lots of documenting information and working with other professionals. I brought in other training materials and shared with the team and Joyti took her own copies.
Although I explained things to Joyti she keeps coming back to me asking the same questions over and over and when I say such and such is not in my remit she said she is asking me because I should know.

At this point I was getting the impressions that she thought I was responsible for training her? So thinking I could be of more help to her I handed over Child K’s and Child T A’s LJs explaining that Hilda Miller the area manager was using Child K’s as one of her project and Child T A’s was different in that I was documenting evidence because of mine and the parent’s concerns. I showed Joyti my #ActivityPlanningFolder that I organised and told her I had added the #Evaluation part to it when I went to Luton Street Community Nursery and OfstedOFSTED recommended it on their visit.

When #KarenWalker who wrote the Tracking Children’s Progress 0-5 booklet, she had asked permission to borrow and used some of the planning forms. I explained about the weekly planning and how the focus activity feed into the weekly planning. Each staff is responsible for doing 2 activities per week for the 2-3 & 3-5 age groups. From the focus activity evidence are documented for the LJ. Joyti would question why I do things a certain way and I explained that being with LEYF 5+ years meant everything I do is centred around LEYF ethos and ways of doing things. Before we went off, for holidays, I heard Joyti questioning why some children behave certain ways…. I tried to explain the reasons behind the behaviours as I know it would take a little time before she would get to know about each #individual child.

I believe I am a very #tolerant person and I am prepared to go the extra mile to facilitate anyone especially if they are new to the situation like Joyti. But after coming back from holidays I got the impressions from how Joyti was approaching her work that she is not using her #initiatives enough to get to grips with her work. Instead she was relying too much on her colleagues to be spoon feeding her and using her status in the setting as #DeputyManager to blag her way through? I found that she kept asking me the same questions about things I had gone through with her several times and which she said she understands. But somehow she just could not seem to get it no matter who explained it to her.

The way she does things can be very #disruptive to the routines and leave the children #unsettled and I in particular #stressed out. I felt I had to be giving her needs for information to do her job priority over meeting the needs of the children. As she would chose the time when you are trying to engage with the children to go over things that were already explained to her. I get the impression that she thinks she has priority to getting her questions answered over the needs of the children. I think by now she should have taken her time to familiarised herself with her #JobDescription and be more proactive in finding her way around by now. Maybe cutting back quality for quantity is the cause as I did not notice the Induction Programme been used any more?

For example she is setting up the table and she keeps walking into the room back and forth with 1 mat at a time asking who this is, is he/she here? All she has to do is get the register and look to see if the child is signed in or out and set a place. These things are happening when I am trying to engage with the children or doing circle time, settling the children who need support. One day she commented loudly why is this child so miserable today? The child in question is Child TA and I have to say Joyti this is the child I have been sharing information with about my concerns. I am sat at the table engaging with children and Joyti went and takes the LJ, sits at the table and is going through every scrap of information that we went through before and even that which she took copy.

Then she has all these questions… What did his parents say? Showed her where parents commented on the #6WeeklyReview. It says here he has #French and #Africanlanguage does he speak any of them? Now there is a time and place for everything and since we had gone through the LJ before I thought Joyti should at least be making a profile of the child by then? What really irritated me was the way Joyti kept going through each forms and asking if I had made them up. No I am working with what I have got until I am given the correct ones. Then she is pointing out what are outdated… I was annoyed that Joyti got up and left the LJ on the table and did not remember to get it and put it away securely.

I worked too hard on Child TA’s LJ for anything to go missing because I don’t keep copies on my USB. I do the work and delete to make space. I think Joyti has let the status of Deputy Manager get to her head and have lost her focus on how to accomplish her job. Just going around saying I am this or that status don’t get the job done. Joyti is not the only one either who has let their position go to their head and I am afraid they can rest assured I have no #ambitions to be anything than I am so I am not a #threat to anyone’s job? Joyti took to coming to seek me out when I am doing circle time and kind of reminded me of those #Inspectors when I went to #PrimarySchool.

She never contributed anything and just questioning and observing my practice. Then one morning I am doing circle time and she comes in, so since I had been working with #Rujina to get Child TA’s, #Child_Ify and some of the children settling in from baby room – #Child_Adama to join in. I asked Joyti if she would like to take control of the group so I could focus on #keychild_TA. She said she would work with Child TA. But instead all she ended up doing was keep asking questions about him – why is he not sitting, etc, etc…? So instead of giving my priority to the children Joyti expected me to answer her questions. In my #frustrations I said Joyti this is TA whom I have been sharing information with you about. Even then I doubt very much if Joyti got it?

I just don’t think it was by #coincidence that Joyti comes to seek me out when I am doing circle time and is always acting out of sorts whether it was deliberate or she knows it or not. So in the pm when I had to do circle time and had #Child_Jayden clinging unto me, I asked #Sadie to come in with me as I just could not cope with Joyti anymore. Joyti did come in with Adama but left when Adama did not want to stay. Sadie who was I am assuming given her role to carry out on Tuesday when I saw 4 members of staff in the office mouth in mouth had done her job. But #exaggerated a bit to make it spicier, I supposed about what I said?

My defence in the matter is I was trying my best not to behave unprofessionally to Joyti because I realised I was STRESSED and at the end of my #tether? So I was doing my level best to keep her away from me as by this time she was getting on my #Nerves. Yes anyone is welcome to check my file to know why I know when I am liable to behave a certain way if I am #undulyprovoked? Some of my health conditions caused me to have other #underlyinghealthissues that I have to try and control.
Monday 5th Joyti told me about staff meeting and by Thursday her behaviour towards me was just #intolerable as she just kept doing these things that was getting on my nerves because by now she was #assessing my practice. Then she keeps asking the same questions and did not seem to be getting it. She & #DeputyNicola copied some of my work to take to their Deputy #Trainings and yet I was hearing things said about me not doing anything. I got the impressions she came back from her Deputy Training to exert her authority wearing her Deputy Manager’s status, but she chose the wrong person to be her target if that was the case. Each time she presented anything I told her that I will do whatever is expected of me when they are #implemented by authority.

Thursday whilst on my break and working on the computer she comes to show me the #2YearOldProgressCheck saying LK ask her to show to me. I told her LK had already spoken to me about it earlier and showed me the format and I asked if LK could get it on my #USB. She still keeps prattling on so I simply asked if she was finish with what she was saying. She later come to ask #Benedicte a question but was unable to formulate it properly, so left to get the book. I said to Benedicte after she left to go find the book that she is talking about the EYFS and she walks in with LK copy. It was funny that Joyti could not formulate a question about the EYFS…?

Later she came out to show me folder that Nicola had given her with planning and advising me what to do with it as Nicola had told her to tell me. I took her again to the Weekly Planning and explained to her how the planning is done again and linking the Focus activity. I said I know that the resource file is a good tool to fall back on, but I would continue using the planning until I was told otherwise. She is telling me that I should just #handwrite the activity plans and put in the file Nicola gives her as I don’t have to use computer because she don’t. I told her LK already knows why I do most of my work on the computer.

Monday I noticed Joyti was behaving towards me as if she is my #superior and I was there to answer the questions she asked even though I had gone through them with her before. I have to be justifying my practice to her even though I realised there are lots for her to learn. However after what happened the previous week I tried to control my irritations and not to let my #frustrations show. Tuesday of this week I am doing circle time with the younger children as I prefer to work with them to establish the foundation before they turn 3. Joyti comes to the door and tells me I should be quiet with the children because she is trying to read and I AM DISTURBING HER! Now these are the -3 who are the focus to develop skills in the #Prime areas and they are not talking, singing or doing nothing to develop any of those skills.

Since I spoke to LK on Tuesday I realised Joyti has climbed down off her high horse and is treating me differently. That is why today I offered the hand of friendship and told her if she feels I have #offended her in anyway, speak to me about it. I advised her to ask for some time away from the setting to #shadow a more experienced Deputy when she told me she did not have an #induction. This is after I spoke to her about the child who is settling in and she said she assumed…? I told her certain things are covered during settling in and she must not ever take anything for granted.

This is my way of covering my back and I do not intend anything I write here to be used against Joyti as I can appreciate how difficult it can be starting out in a new job. I am still willing to help Joyti and anyone else who need my help in getting the job done, because UNITED WE STAND, DIVIDED WE FALL. I am only interested in giving of my best and working collaboratively in the team.


Allegations: Setting the Record Straight – Since there were a number of allegations coming back and forth from WB: Monday 5th January 2015 culminating in a meeting between Lynne Kelly, Remi as the witness and I. Out of that meeting I am hearing about a number of ALLEGATIONS that were made against me. Since some are from the #wedding and others from within the setting most of which were alleged to have taken place on Thursday 08th January 2015 I have now been made aware that some are #orchestrated by Joyti. Joyti in particular is the author of a number of the allegations that are made in the setting and I don’t know why she is behaving this way towards me.

To protect myself I have decided to stop running from my past and stand up and fight for my rights. However there are certain matters that I need to be cleared up as I am not going to sit idly by and let any other person ruined my life, blacken my name and good character and bring down my high integrity that I worked so hard to achieve. Most of all I won’t allow anyone to rob me of my basic Human Rights not to be Harassed and Bullied as I go through the processes of living my life in a productive manner.

However I must let it be known that the past 2 weeks have impacted on my health, emotional well-being and #exacerbated my underlying health conditions. I have gone through the Menopause and haven’t had a period over a year. Now I am STRESSED out and bleeding and this is all due to the actions of some UNSCRUPULUS Colleagues who have conspired to make ALLEGATIONS against me. I am hurting and trying to cope with this #deceit because all I have done since joining Bird In Bush is to give of my best! It will be very hard for me to go back to that time when I #trust anyone because my life was almost RUINED once by unfounded ALLEGATIONS made against me before.


At the New Year Staff Party: I was talking to #TaniaSilva my former colleague at Luton Street about telling Joyti to ask to shadow another Deputy Manager. When I told her I worked with Tania, she said she met her at deputy meeting. Tania told me that Jyoti came to shadow her and she was asking for help with the #HomeLearning_Language groups etc. Tania said she told Jyoti to ask #Mervelee to help her because I know what to do. Yet no mention is made of this when they are trying to frustrate me and #disempowering so I can’t do my work.

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